I'd been beginning to think that my ex's partner may have had enough decency to get this stopped as the money still had not started going but a call from CSA today showed me the error of that misplaced optimism.

CSA was wanting backpay and were suprised that I'd not sent them money despite their plans to have the money taken from my pay. I'd happily cooperate with a sane amount but refuse to cooperate with such an obscene assessment. Unfortunately they will get the money anyway but I don't want to make it easier for them to do their wrong doing.

It's a horrid feeling to be so ripped off by an ex who was always a user and have the government there to help.

 No where to turn to get it fixed and a man who I'd once respected turning out to be either a money grubbing slime or too weak to make an ethical stand against wrongdoing. Maybe that's how he manages to stay seemingy happily married to my ex.

On the upside my son continues to be happy with the school (despite a general dislike of school). Something he never expressed with the local high school in my area. It's a shame his mum and her husband are willing to put blatent profiteering (or revenge for invented harms) ahead of working cooperatively for his well being.

I was less than friendly to the CSA caller, another CSA person willing to do great harm in her day to day job and seemingly not taking responsibility for her choice to do that job. She may not be responsible for the formula but she is responsible for staying a job that applies it. I generally don't like to make it personal when people are stuck with silly company policy but there is a point when the job is far more than some silly restrictions on policy and becomes one of doing great harm where it should be personal. Where those willing to do that job know that they are doing harm to some of those they call with no fairness or justice involved to the ones they harm.

Whilst I don't wish any harm to the woman who called I'm hoping something got through, that each day when she does her job she is aware that this isn't just applying a formula, it's not always helping the needy and that sometimes she is siding with the users and abusers to rip off parents who have always tried to do the right thing by their children. I hope that she and her co-workers have a few of the sleepless nights that those being ripped off by CSA's formula experience and maybe just maybe there might eventually be some impitus from inside CSA for a less destructive system.