I've been pondering the concept of responsibility and the way it's applied. It would not have made a difference in my situation, I didn't seek child support payments.

If I had I would have received very if anything because my ex earned very little. That was I believe a lifestyle choice rather than a case of disability. During the period she and her husband have been together there have been overseas holidays most if not every year, there has been regular other travel. There appear to have been plenty of nice weekends away. My ex has enjoyed a standard of living that bears no relation to her earned income.

Because the only thing that's measured in terms of financial responsibility is earning history CSA does not and as I understand it would not have considered her responsible for any significant portion of the financial responsibility for her son. Because I've not found (nor looked for) someone able and willing to support me financially I'm considered far more responsible for the upkeep of my son than someone enjoying what appears to be a higher standard of living than I have(in financial terms) .

It's not the situation of someone who's been unable to work because of the care of children.

CSA believes that her partners income should not come into yet that partners income is I suspect the main reason that she has been able to keep her own income so low over that period.

I don't see why a history of choosing not to support yourself should be a reason to be absolved of responsibilities that are demanded of others who have supported themselves.

It time she started to take some financial responsibility for our son. If her husband chooses to bear that responsibility on her behalf then that's their issue but the idea that a long term choice not to work much (while enjoying a high standard of living) should make someone less responsible than someone else is a nonsense that we should be rid of.